Saturday, May 22, 2010

Métro Nation

rue Pyrénées, 00h20
21 Mai 2010
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. . . . You set a timer for sending a text message to your friend forty minutes in advance. It says : " Liste d'attestations -- (1) i recognize its a bad idea, (2) we can talk abt it more later, (3) i have a lil cold, (4) i want to wake up in yr bed tmrw. " At this point you all are still at your place enjoying a cocktail.

30 minutes before it goes off you're heading out the door to have a drink at the friend of a friend's place.

15 minutes before it goes off you're debating in the bodega over who's paying for the beer.

7 minutes before it goes off you're wondering if pre-set text message sending really is a good idea. Consequently, your arm movements start to become exaggerated with attempts to circumvent anxiety (like that ever works).

4 minutes before it goes off you're on the floor picking up the pieces to a glass of wine you knocked not just out of the hostess' hand but out of her hand and half way across the room.

40 minutes after you pre-set the sending of this text message to your friend, he's handing you a beer and assuring you you're not as much of an asshole as you think. And you're like, "Just wait, it gets better."

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Before you go Pop ...*

After much experimentation, we've landed on the perfect combination of flavors for a batch of savory popcorn. Measurments are relative -- "to taste" being a good rule of thumb here. Get ready ...

1-2 Tbl. oil (vegetable, olive, coconut, canola, whathaveyou)

1/4 cup popcorn kernels

fine grain sea salt

juice of 1/2 a lime

2 heavy pinches red pepper flakes (but if you have Valentina sauce on hand, oh, the wonders you can create)

1-2 Tbl. Nutritional yeast (Obligatory. Yes.)

Olive oil (to drizzle)

Put a med-large sized pot over a med-high sized flame. Add oil and kernels, shake the pot a bit to make sure the popcorn is well covered with oil. Shake the pot frequently back and forth to keep moving the popcorn around (you want to keep the kernels from burning). A moment or two after you hear the start of popping corn, add the red pepper flakes (if using sauce, wait to drizzle it on with the olive oil and salt). Keep it moving as that shit starts a'poppin' and right through until the sounds of them crazy kernels gets few and far between (still making sure to not let anything rest on the bottom of the pot too long). Remove from heat.

If you fortunate enough to be working with a large stock pot (you luck gormet popcorn chef, you) add the salt, a generous drizzling of olive oil and lime juice now so you can shake that shtuff up with the use of the pot lid (lending to even, mess-free coating of yum), otherwise transfer directly to a large bowl and attempt the same. Pour a happy helping of nutritional yeast on top just before serving (most of it will fall through to the stuff underneath anyways) and maybe a bit more salt, red pepper flakes and lime (all to taste). Enjoy immediately (as to preserve all the awesomness within).

*I'm thinking of changinge the tag-line for the blog to "emotionally unstable and hungry seeks same."

Monday, April 5, 2010

On the road

rue de Bellville (parmi d'autres), 10h50
5 April 2010
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TEXTS SENT TO ELLI ON MY WAY TO THE LITHO STUDIO :
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11h18 -- "Just past an older cpl making out nxt to the métro and thought it was cute and then i saw tongue & ... well, in short it was unfortunate x"
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11h37 -- "Thr's nothing like wearing a backpack in the city &coming across smone tht's actually backing thro the city, &finding y'r carring similar loads x"
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11h47 -- "Glad to hear y'r enjoying it bc i just nearly had a pigeon nosedive into the back of my head &was wanting badly to share tht w you too"
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11h48 -- "Tho if i had a camera phone it'd be bettr"
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11h51 -- "Just ruined a 3rd touristic photo op by wlking thro the backgrd of the shot & pulling a face of equal parts confusion &horror"
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11h55 -- "txting on the pont ds arts is hard bc looking down you see all the wood boards pass by leading to pedestrian motion sickness"
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(and then)
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23h56 -- "Mmm &to add to my list of sightings tday: just caught smone whizzing in a phone booth &now know exactly where that smell comes from ... classy"

Monday, March 29, 2010

upstairs

(having woken up neither alone nor in my own) bed, 15h50
28 March 2010
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. . . . . . . I've recently found I have a penchant for list-making. I came up with one last Tuesday with the intention of stablizing my budget/work ethic/mental health for the rest of my stay.
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J'atteste que, d'ici, je ferai mon mieux de :
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- stop smoking
- not go out more than 3 times a week (hanging out at friends houses not included)
- not wake up with a hangover more than 5 times a week (one day sans alcool prefered)
- only have 1 night of dating/sex/excess flirting (dancing) per week
- speak French more often
- budget
- not beat myself up when I fuck up any of the aforementioned goals
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A week later and I have not adhered to a single one of these points. Though I am giving the final one a worthwhile shot.
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Saturday night we were at a party together and I went home with him. I cornered him in a window where we were smoking and suggested we makeout. Just a little. Because I was drunk and probably wouldn't remember it. I was wearing a scarf for a shirt (don't -- I know ...). I had taken a nice guy from Miami home from a bar the night before (when it rains, it pours) and was feeling confident and sexy and more than slightly careless. But even from the first kiss, the whole thing felt like saying good-bye.
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It's funny, since I got here I've never done so much nothing. But not nothing like watching tv or youtube or facebooking (yikes) but frequently, with friends and sometimes alone, we just sit and let time pass without overthinking it. Not everyday but a couple hours a week at least. I think I'm in a rare place in my life where I can do this -- where I can allow time to be filled with simply being and not trying to occupy it with the pressure to work or chat or move or think. And there's still a buzz of anxiety and guilt that surrounds these moments but practice has been helping my parlor-room meditations (or so I have decided to call them) and the company of friends keeps me present so I that I don't get lost in thought (for the most part) and am able to let things kind of just be what they are for a while (as in, not good or bad or exciting or boring, but just as they are in that moment).
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I had one of these times yesterday. For hours. Until 5 o'clock in the afternoon we laid in bed and did nothing. And I found myself at one point consumed with anxiety over not wanting to leave where I was and then paradoxically needing to leave because I was so overwhelmed with the idea of that space in time ending. And then I realized how hard I was still working to control my experience rather than just letting it go and exist and end when it had to. And I recognized the fact that I was happy in that moment, and that I knew (most certainly) that I would not be for the time that followed and (most importantly) that that negative experience will only serve to lead me back to another moment of happiness, even more fulfilled by a greater sense of experience and enlightenment. And while it was a hard place to maintain for just a couple hours yesterday (and even harder today), it was quite blissful letting go of all control because I felt somewhat comfortable with the present and the (presumably more sucky) future (leading to a fuller experience of another moment of happiness, and so forth and so on, ad fin.).
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Was it a good idea, then ? Well, no, for obivious reasons. (Maritza very lovingly told me I was dumb when I came home on Sunday*) But, maybe for other reasons ...
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I realized after I had my big melt down two weeks ago that part of my problem was that I had let this idea of "myself" become too big to support. "I" had to know what "I" was doing and where "I" was going and what that meant to "me". After a great deal of reflection (and feeling like shit) I remembered that it doesn't matter -- it doesn't matter whether or not I know what I'm doing as long as I can sense that I'm not in it alone (even if I can't always pin-point who's there with me) and that I am still working toward something (even if I still don't know what that something is ...).
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So that feeling of "good-bye" ? Well, I imagine it's not the last time I'm going to see him (though, I'm almost hoping at this point it'll be the last time we sleep together), so maybe it was letting go of some dependency on controling this idea of "me" and who "I" can see and what "I" should do and what "I" have to have happen and needing someone to be responsible when it does all go to shit -- because since January there hasn't been a single thing which has worked out the way that "I" expected it to.
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And to this point, I couldn't have been luckier.
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* Which was totally justified. x

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

front door

(having woken up alone) my own bed, 10h20
17 March 2010
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. . . . . . . The doorbell rang around 9:00 this morning. I had been writing in the kitchen since 8:00. When I opened the door a woman with a large envelope in here hand looked at me with apprehension and asked if Lara Peligino lived here. I let a blank expression ride my face for a prolonged moment.
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"Who ?"
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She stuttered as she repeated the name and timidly held out the envelope for me to read it. I informed her that it was the apartment to the right that she was looking for and forced a polite smile as she thanked me and backed away slowly.
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Coming back through the hallway I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Small, red eyes cushioned by large dark pillows of skin and framed by an unbalanced mess of greesy locks looked back at me. (Ample consideration should be given to how unfortunate this state is for onlookers the morning after crying yourself to sleep, preferably before opening the door to strangers.)
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Maritza came into the kitchen a little while later and after a moment let out a hesitant "Ça va, Sam ?"
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"No. But it's going to."
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After a little bit of work she finally got the story out of me. Not the whole story, just the important bits, like how I realized that most of the shit I was feeling wasn't even about him anymore. How there was just something he said that triggered this avalanche of insecurity and not being okay. How frustrated I am realizing that what has me feeling like this can't be blamed on anyone or thing but exists just a "heartache with no face to put on it,"* and that I just have to wait it out.
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Then she hugged me. And she said, "Please don't be sad." And then she hugged me tighter. And I said, "thank you, my friend. I can't tell you how lucky I am to have met you." And then a minute or two later I was finally like, "So you're really not going to let go until I am happy again ?"
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It's all for the best. Or it's going to be. I don't really believe this but I'm hoping that if I say it often enough I might start to.

*another one of my very clever friends talked about this. xx
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"Until Ya Get Over It" Handmade Chocolate Guiness Ice Cream
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Adapted from Heidi Swanson's Peppermint Semifreddo.

While you can totally swap out some of the manual labor for a Kitchen Aide or electric handmixer, I love the idea of using the process of making the dessert to burn (most of) the calories you'll be consuming in the final product.

1 1/2 cups (40 cl) heavy whipping cream, chilled
1/2 cup evaporated cane sugar, divided
3 large organic eggs, separated
1/2 Guiness
3.5 oz (1 bar) dark chocolate (70% or more)
1/3 cup chopped walnuts, optional
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Start by melting the chocolate either in a double broiler or the microwave. Set aside.
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Whip the heavy cream in a medium sized bowl until you can form soft, floppy peaks of chantilly. (If you're getting stiff peaks you've over done it.) Leave it in the fridge until you need it again.
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Because this dessert has eggs at the base, you're going to need to set everything up before starting to make sure it's all on hand (i.e. this is when you do your measuring). Make an ice bath in a large bowl (I actually like to use a deep skillet for this) and set it to the side. "Set a large heatproof bowl over a pan of simmering water. You need to move quickly here, so have everything right on hand. Add the egg yolks and 1/4 cup of the sugar, and quickly start whisking - whisk until the mixture starts to pale, 30 seconds or so. Add the [Guiness] and whisk like you've never whisked before until the mixture starts to thicken (somewhere between [2 and 5] minutes depending on the heat)." The Guiness makes this part hard to judge, but in spite of the foam you'll still be able to see when it starts to thicken up a bit. Remove the bowl from heat but leave the water simmering.
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Place the bowl in the ice bath and add your (room temp but still liquid) chocolate and continue whisking like hell until the mixture is cool to the touch. Remove from the ice bath and set aside.
"Take another heatproof bowl (you can use the one from your electric mixer if you've got one) and set it over the simmering water, whisk the egg whites and the remaining 1/4 cup of sugar. Start whisking, you want the sugar to dissolve and the egg whites to warm up a touch - the heat makes it easier to whip them. After a minute or so remove them from the heat and whisk the whites until they have glossy peaks - four or five minutes. They should be structured and stiff."
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Now you get to put all that shit together. Fold a small amount of egg whites into the egg/choco/Guiness mixture until it's entirely blended (this helps to lighten up the mixture and makes the rest of the folding easier). Now fold in the rest of the egg whites until it's just blended (if there's little pockets of white it's not a big deal -- better than if you deflate the whole thing). Then fold in the cream (I usually do this in two or three parts) and, finally, the walnuts.
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Spoon into either a large Tupperware container or several small, fancy, freezable dessert glasses. The ice cream takes about four hours in a large tupperware to set and 6-7 to freeze all the way through. The cool thing about individual glasses (or containers) is that after an hour or two you can serve them 1/2 frozen (semifreddo, as the lady says) which is quite delish.

courtyard across from the parc

sitting on a small stone wall covered in ivy, 1h30
17 March 2010
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. . . . . " He sent me an email finally last night when my friends were over. We talked a bit later. It's a long story but in the end poor buddy had to bear a lot of the quiet crazy that came out of me. And I was left wanting so badly to be able to know what it's like to wake up next to someone you love. And I felt so reduced and empty and sure that I'm never going to.

I've been thinking a lot about giving up these days. Not just on Paris; everything. I just don't know what I'm expecting to find anymore. I feel like I've walked away from everyone I've ever meant anything to in search of something that I'm more and more sure I'll never find. "

He liked the CD, though. The imperceptible shine of a vaguely silver lining.

Monday, March 15, 2010

la cuisine

à côté du chauffage (encore une fois), 1h11
16 March 2010
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I've decided I've missed too much of my story to go back and recount it now. It's probably part of the reason I've put off writing for so long.
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. . . . . . . . . I made him a mixed CD yesterday. This, instead of doing one of the million and one things I should have been taking care of in order to put my steady shaking apart Parisian life back together. I spent hours on that shit. I left it by his door wrapped in a piece of sketch book paper with "écoute-moi" written in small handwriting on the front and with a note on the inside that said "ça va, la grève ? say one more time that you're not looking for a relationship or at least not one with me and I promise I'll let it drop," and on the other side "en tous cas, happy listening. -s "
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That was this afternoon. Still no word.
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This is my final attempt at regaining some level of sanity. It's been hard to maintain my distance lately, despite some half-hearted efforts. So now instead of loosing what feels like hours of the day walking around trying to figure out what's going on his head after every encounter, I'll know if there's actually something there worth hanging on for or if I should stop wasting time waiting around for nothing.
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Two weeks ago Maritza and I finally called a plumber at 22h30 at night to come and fix the shower which had given up on mainting any level of water pressure about a month before. The landlady didn't care. Or she did but cared more about her pretty golden duck head than our hygiene. The plumber came and took the old faucet and left us with a 700€ bill for a new one, plus the 160€ he charged for the service. He was in the apartment for less than an hour.
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The only reason we took it was because he said he was going to leave us a bill of about 200€ just for having to come to the apartment at 11 o'clock at night and as shit as it is to get your landlady to reimburse you for the 820€ you were overcharged for a useless shower it's even more shit to get her to cover the 200€ you just threw in the (only marginally more functional) toilet. It's been complicated trying to go about getting our money back because of letters and documents and tracking down the (putain connard) plumber so Maritza's friend has been helping us out a lot. Which doesn't give us as much space as we need. Well, as I need, anyway.
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I know I'm not the only one. I'm lost in a sea of other girls waiting to get into his shorts and a slightly larger group of other girls waiting to get back into his shorts and as much as he must know at this point, know because I've told him, how much he makes me feel like just another easy lay, he still doesn't think before he does something to crush me just a little bit more. And I spend so much time hating him for it and trying to figure out all the reasons why he's just not worth it and how he's just another guy that doesn't know what he wants. And then after I've spent even five minutes with him I'm suddenly over it. And all that's left is those warm hazel eyes looking down on me and a painful realization that the negativity was a waste of energy because he's already been forgiven. Because I can't not forgive him. Can't not understand.
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The bastard ...
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I hope he says not that it's bad timing but that he's not interested in me. Then I can really let it go for good. But I think he likes me too much to let me stop liking him infinitely more and his compliments and his thoughtfulness and his way of lingering when we spend time together, it's like dysfunctional relationship Miracle grow. And I eat it up with a fucking spoon.
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Blue Corn Pancakes and Maple Syrup
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This recipe yields neither of these as a final product.
Adzuki beans and whole grain brown rice are like a match made in high nutritional value heaven. I topped my dish with a poached egg for extra protein (and because I like eggs). The cheese mentioned in the recipe is speculative (and, likewise, optional) but I'm rather excited about trying the combo out. This lunch was enjoyed with some hot, tasty (and rather stunning) hibiscus tea à la Lala.
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2 cups cooked adzuki beans (homemade is better but I won't judge you for using canned)
2 1/2 cups cooked (though al dente) short grain brown rice
1/2 cup loosely chopped (and lightly toasted) walnuts
3-4 shallots, sliced
1/2 bunch chard or kale, well washed, destemed and sliced
juice of 1/2 a lemon (about 2 T)
1/4 tsp. ground coriander
2 tsp fresh thyme
pinch evaporated cane sugar
heavy pinch red pepper flakes
2 T Evoo + more for drizzling
sea salt and fresh black pepper to taste
parmesan or manchego to garnish (totally optional)
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Heat the olive oil in a large skillet over med heat. Add shallots, pinch of sugar, red pepper flakes and two pinches of salt and sautée until the shallots become soft and take on a little color. Add lemon juice and chard/kale and continue sautéeing until the greens are soft and darker in color (about 2 minutes) then add the beans, walnuts, coriander and thyme and sautée another minute or so. Finally add the rice and any additional oil if it's looking a bit dry. Remove from flame after dish is well heated. Garnish with a dusting of parmesan or shaved manchego and serve as side or main course topped with a poached egg.

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Chez moi

La cuisine, 16h26
28 February 2010
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. . . . I've been blog delinquent and I apologize.
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Truth is there's been stuff weighing on my mind that isn't neccessarily publishable sur l'internet. It's funny, exactly three weeks have gone by since I published my last post but it really all happened in a blink and I have to admit that with school (if nothing else) I'm in almost entirely the same situation I was in right after orientation week -- lost, lost, lost, lonely foreign exchange student.
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The first week after orientation, every attempt to establish some kind of schedule or space for myself was foiled by miscommunication, a cancel class, cancel course, or simply listing the name of a room which is not actually at the school but in a museum, 30 minutes by foot from the school and which has no reservations about the locking the door on unknowing foreign students who show up half frozen in the snow 45 minutes late.
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By Friday, I had given up trying to take any sort of control of my misguided situation. I showed up at the school around 4h30 with a roll of black craft paper and, realizing I had no reason to actually go into the studio, turned on my heels 3m from the door and went to wander around the art galleries in the area instead, flipping my roll of paper up in air and catching it as I strolled. Art galleries are mostly amusing and sometimes (on those wonderfully rare but fitting occasions) heartbreakingly inspirational. The work I found on the little rue Visconti hit me like that. They were the painting of a man who had once been an architect and featured softened geometric forms laid out with pencil marks and earth-tones on unprimed canvas. Pleased with my being pleased, the owner of the gallery led me downstairs to see the continuationation of the exhibition. And then left on my own I could make like the true crazy that I am inside and put myself right up against each painting, trying to understand how it came to be so interesting, moving, while remaining so simple. And finally I decided, he must just know, this painter dude. He must just know how to let this happen.
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Getting Phở -cked up (in 15 minutes or less)
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This wayyy simplified (and veg-ified) version of traditional Vietnamese rice noodle soup is my go-to food item for getting over the final hump of any sickness. I know that things like Nutrional yeast and Ume vinegar are not to be found in most kitchen cabinets but seriously, seriously, once you've got them on hand their uses multiply -- likewise with the Sriracha.
(This is one of my less flattering food photos : You'll have to forgive me for being too hungry to perfect the shot)
This soup is best made to order, but if you want to cut down on cooking time you can make the broth with tofu/seitan and more durable veggies (broccoli, carrots, mushrooms) in advance and then just add the noodles and leafy greens when reheating.
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1 1/2 cups veggie stock -- alternatively 1 1/2 cups water + 1/2 a veggie bullion cube (I like Rapunzel brand if you can find it)
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Seasoning (measurements are approximations -- make sure to taste as you go and feel free to go heavy handed on the stuff you like)
1/4 of a med onion, sliced (1/4 cup)
2 tsp ginger powder/1 tsp fresh grated ginger root
1 med-clove garlic, minced/1 tsp garlic powder
1/8 tsp ground coriander
touch black pepper
2-3 tsp nutritional yeast
couple heavy dashes Ume (plum) vinegar
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2 oz tofu (or sliced seitan or 1 egg)
1/3 - 1/2 cup greenerie (I prefer simple bok choy or spinach, but it can be any quick cooking veg or veggie combo)
1/2 T Evoo/sesame oil/peanut oil
handful (app. 4-5 oz.) Thai stir-fry rice noodles (while not so traditional (though what about this recipe is), I prefer the fat stir-fry thai noodles because they hold their form a little longer than the skinny ones)
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To garnish : (this is important)
**Tamari (or conventional soy sauce)
**Sriracha sauce (Vietnamese hot sauce)
**Thai basil
**Sprouts
**lime wedges
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Set stock/agua+bullion in med-sized pot over med-sized heat. While the water is heating add ingredients starting with the onion and garlic and making your way through the other seasonings (ginger, coriander, ume vinegar, nutritional yeast, black pepper). Toss in the chopped tofu or sliced seitan (if using an egg as protein you want to time dropping the egg in until the soup only has about 3-4 mins of cooking time left).
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Check the cooking time of the rice noodles -- most stir-fry noodles take about 10 mins, so plan the cooking time for the whatever green ya got around this (e.g. add broccoli or bok choy just before the noodles; add spinach or kale 3-4 minutes before the soup is ready). The timing of certain ingredients make take one or two tries to perfect but worry not -- even if the spinach/egg/whathaveyou is a bit overdone on the first take it'll still be tasty. Add the glup of oil and remove the soup from heat when the noodles are still al dente, allowing them to continue cooking in the hot broth as the soup cools to eating temp (shorting the listed cooking time app. 2 mins). I like to garnish with a pool of Tamari sauce and heavy sprinkling of Sriracha. Experitment with combinations of these, limes, sprouts, Thai basil, hoisin sauce or whatever strikes your fancy.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

l'école

École Nationale Supérieure des Beaux-Arts, 16h10
7 February 2010
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. . . . . . Julia refers to college life and relationships as though they were seasons of a television series. We were in the midst of season three when I skipped over the second half of it, jumping into the fourth season with my trip abroad. We're all hoping season five brings us all together again but not before fully indulging in international cameos while the fourth lingers on.
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Monday was orientation. I got there late. By like two minutes (which is still eighteen minutes early in French-time). I jogged up the rue Bonaparte, dodging Vespas and old women in fur coats and small dogs on the narrow cobblestone walkways, brushing through the gate onto the school grounds. I pressed through dark halls adjoining courtyards lined with classical sculptures and fountains toward the back of the school. There a roomful of would-be felicities and harries, each sitting alone together in the mixed crowd of strangers somewhat overwhelmed by the joy and anxiety of not knowing what to expect (or what was expected of them) at this new (though ancient) school.
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Greeting the anticipation of the thirty-five students from New York, LA, Chicago, Canada, Brasil, Germany, England, Austria, Australia, China, Russia, Switzerland, Israel, Zimbabwe, Italy and Peru was a half hour presentation which started forty-five minutes late and left more questions than answers while the organizer, Véronique, slipped out of the room into her office and locked the door.
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I don't remember if words were actually exchanged, but, as great minds think alike, the girl to my right and I quickly found ourselves trying find out where we could go to grab a drink. As is typical of spontaneous outtings, we rounded up about eight people who wanted to come with us to the cafe across the street and two who actually did.
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Heather is an Australian, originally from Sydney, but imported (for ENSBA purposes) from Canberra, which is the capital (apparently). She spent about six months in Paris when she was 16, and her French is pretty good considering (though she has the mega-advantage of really really really enjoying speaking the language -- this allows someone to shamelessly make faults zipping through them into a much more successful linguistic competence). She's also spent some time backpacking around Europe and has some nifty anecdotes from Dublin (along with some depressing ones).
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Of the two we managed to talk into joining us, Kevin is also from Australia (Sydney born and bred), a bit older, working on his Master's, and Phoebe is light-hearted nymph from Hunter College (NYC, baby), who's participation in this program came about in the same assbackwards way mine did.
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Sobering up in the 40 degree breeze on my way home over the Seine and up to the hills of Chaumont, I had an episode of wanting to ring all of my friends in the states, which usually starts with Kim and goes on for the one or two phone numbers I can remember beyond that.
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The schedule for the week of orientation was kind of all over the place, having some days where we were supposed to show up for an hour or two, some where we were booked the whole day and one day where attendance was expected, but we more or less had to figure out in what capacity on our own. Wednesday morning we all met again in the conference room at 9h30 prepared to show our portfolios to department heads to find out what artist's atelier we should try to negotiate acceptance into. After about two and half hours of literally sitting there shaking, I sat with the head of the painting department and said, I like artists a, b and c, to which she replied, "Good choices."
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The one good thing that came out of being made to sit around, devising means of distracting myself from my jumping knees, was that I met Zach, a vegan with a lip-ring and a kind face brought in from Chicago but originally from just outside Lawrence, KA (I have had very good experiences with people from this part of the world). Super excited to see that vegans could exist in Europe (even though they were imported from elsewhere), I invited him and his girlfriend over for dinner Thursday night. I made curried eggplant which was f'ing delish (check the recipe below), though it was their gratitude that really made the dinner successful. Apparently it was the first meal they'd eaten in a week that wasn't bread and dip. It was an awesome experience for me because, well, vegges always need to watch out for each other, especially when abroad, and because I was grateful to be in a place this time where I could reach out and offer something simple but profound, in the same way Anja and others had done for Anna and me the last time I was here.
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After the meeting with the department heads, we were invited to a Pot d'accueil (welcome drink) in a narrow hallway where we steadied our nerves with some vino (and our growling stomachs with bread and cheese and coldcuts and fruit and couscous and cake). This was a rather fabulous scheduling move because a) it was 12h30 in the afternoon and b) we had a French placement exam less than two hours later (jeez). So after the better part of a bottle of wine each, we stumbled through various corridors, courtyards and stairways trying to find the exam room (successfully losing half the party in the process).
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[ The oral part of my exam translates roughly into :
Q : And why did you want to come to the school in Paris ?
A : Because I really like the school and I really like French and I'm an artist and you all make good art here and I enjoy speaking French and Paris is great, I mean, it's fun, it's fun to be here speaking French in France, I mean Paris, at this school ... making art.
Q : ....
A : Should I sit down now ? ]
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Because we had some time between the exam and when we were supposed to meet in the library for a tour, Heather and I came up with the brilliant (and original) idea of meeting in the cafe across the street for a beer (surprise, surprise). Obviously still profiting a bit from the lunchtime high, she snuck into the classroom and wrote diagonally across the dry-erase board way too much information about our plans for an impromptu exchange student rendez-vous across the street, so that a third of the people that left the exam to come meet us ended up getting confused, spending over an hour wandering around St. Germain-de-Près looking for the cafe, and finally deciding on return to their respective homes, missing the presentation of the library all together.
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As for myself -- well, you can blame it partly on the high from the alcohol, but mostly from the high of just being there in those buildings with their history and their energy. I ducked out of the library meeting and headed down the grand staircase to the Palais d'études -- a huge, open empty hall with colored tile floor, red walls, golden trim, fresco detailing, and a 50 foot high glass ceiling. I sauntered delicately back and forth alone, across this silent, open space, smelling four hundred years of faces and voices and stories mixed with the cool winter air. I tried to touch a sense of presence, bringing forward an appreciation for my life's journey thus far while allowing the space and openness for whatever experiences may come next. And yet, I thought of nothing. And I walked back and forth. And swayed with the imperceptible breeze. And moved my feet in whatever little dances they remembered from so many years ago. And I let go of everything, so that all that was left was peace.
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Curried Eggplant (yum yum)

When I made this Thursday I served it with lemon-garlic sauteed kale, rice (2/3 brown, shortgrain, 1/3 red bhutanese, though I've also done quinoa in the past) and cilantro-yogurt sauce (recipe below). Because I was making it for vegans, I substituted regular yogurt for a creamy, unsweetened soy one. We were lucky, too, because Maritza made fried plantains, which really brought everything together (this is the only thing we didn't end up having leftovers of -- recipe to follow in future entries).
With the eggplant, I like to start with slices (about 1" thick), sprinkle both sides with fine-grain sea salt and lay them out on a plate or cutting board, layered with paper towels and with a heavy pot (or stack of books) on top for 1-2 hours. This draws the moisture of the eggplant so that it's more tender and absorbs more of the flavor from the spices.

2 med-sized eggplants cut into cubes (or one big mama eggplant; skin on -- see headnotes)
2 med-sized red onions chopped
3 cloves garlic minced
1 can diced tomatoes, 14oz/400g (the fire-roasted ones can be really good as long as they're not done up with additives)
+ 2 med-sized fresh tomatoes, chopped
2 T. EV [oh oh] + extra as needed
1-2 T. yellow curry powder (I usually opt for mild curry then use the cayenne for the kick as it gives more control over the spice factor. If you're using paste, use less and add little by little)
1 tsp. ground coriander
1/2 tsp. ground cumin
1 tsp. ground cinnamon (please please please try to make sure it's fresh !)
1/4-1/2 tsp. cayenne powder
1/4 tsp. ground white pepper (if it's handy)
Fresh Black pepper and sea salt, to taste
juice of 1/2 a lemon (about 2 T.)
1 T. chopped fresh coriander (cilantro)

Over medium heat, heat olive oil in a large, deep skillet. Add onions and sautee until lightly brown. While the onions are doing their thing, season them with black and white pepper and a touch of salt (because the eggplant already has salt on it from before) and curry if you're using a paste. Making sure the pan's not too hot, add the garlic and sautee another minute just until the garlic becomes fragrant and almost slightly kinda looks like it might start to take on color (Dante wrote about garlic-burners in the sixth circle with the heretics). Add the eggplant, being mindful that you may need to add another 1-3 T olive oil because of its super absorbency.

Add the dry spices and continue sauteeing until the eggplant becomes a little less rubbery and takes on some color from the pan and the oil (unless of course the garlic is starting to take on color too quickly causing concern for its well-being, then add the tomatoes right away). After adding the lemon juice and tomatoes, fill the can about 1/2 way with H20 and throw that in, too. Keep adding water as the curry cooks so that it can simmer happily without burning or becoming too thick. As long as it's well hydrated you can cook the eggplant for 2-3 hours or longer, letting the flavors really stew together and allowing extra water boil off. Make sure to taste the curry, too, as you cook it -- the spices should come together to form a round, slightly sweet flavor profile (if it doesn't taste this way, a touch more cinnamon or cumin usually helps, but be sensitive to salt and curry levels, too).

Stirring frequently, allow the curry to simmer over low heat 1-2 hours or until eggplant is well cooked. Remove from heat. Taking an old fashioned potato masher magigger (or a coffee mug or small bowl), gently press the curry to help break down the forms of the veggies and create a slightly smoother melange (not that you're going for hummous here). Add the fresh cilantro and adjust consistency by adding some water or returning to heat to allow moisture to evaporate. Serve hot with grains (see headnotes) or potatoes and topped with yogurt sauce.

Cilantro Yogurt sauce :

Put two single serving yogurt (about 8 oz or 1 cup) in a med sized bowl. Drizzle with 2-3 tsp. EVOooo, a sprinkle of sea salt and about 1/4 tsp. lemon zest. Mix (or whisk) to bring ingredients together and lighten sauce. Bon appetit.

Sunday, January 31, 2010

Bastille

Bar des Familles [yes, it's really called this], 00h43
1 February 2010
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. . . . . . . Slim, the owner of the bar I've been working at, gives me a ride home every night in his three decade old bimmer named Titilla. He's named the car because I told him that it would help it to start. It doesn't though.
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He gives me a ride home because the Metro is usually closed and he doesn't live far from me (though, if either of these were untrue, I'm pretty sure he'd do it anyway). Last two nights he's bought me dinner, too. It's kind of a French truc to refer to things as "too," which is why I started telling Slim with frequency that he's too nice ("vachement" en fait, "t'es vachement trop gentil"). It's both true and a common expression, but each time he reminds me that you can never be too kind in life, that kindness to others the source of freedom. (No, really, he does.)
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I spent most of the night trying to figure out exactly what I would say to Slim about my experiences working at the bar. After coming home Saturday night near tears because I felt like such shit, I decided that, while the money was great, it wasn't worth the state it put me in (Mimi has a great theory about this). During the car ride home I asked Slim if it was helpful having me there. Then I told him that I got the impression that they didn't really need me and that, moreover, that Marieanne didn't really seem to interested in seeing me there at all (in lightness, like I was telling him a story from my day, sort of). He asked why I thought that. My ego kept spitting bitter thoughts of my own ungratefullness at me as I let French words fall out of my mouth and break against the dashboard. I was trying so hard to be delicate and articulate and finally I was just like, "This chick makes it more than obvious she doesn't want me here and it makes me uncomfortable." (No, it did not come out like that in French.)
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He looked at me hurt, like I had just kicked his small dog (with force) and said, "No. You're the one that thinks that."* And repeated it several times, "No, it's not like that. You're the one that thinks it," saying it softer with each turn.
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"T'es pas triste au moins ?"
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I know the correct response to this -- I say, "Yes, I'm sad," and start crying as I repeat the laundry list of offences from the last two weeks while fully indulging in out poor of emotions the way most good French girls should. But I try to abstain from getting emotional (or indulgent) when talking about things which are emotional.**
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"Probably not" wasn't necessarily a fair response either, but it was the most I could manage. I felt like I was a such a disappointment to this friend that had helped me out so much, telling him that despite his best efforts I was not happy.
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Too nice is too give even when people tell you not to -- when they say they can't support feeling like all they are capable of doing in a friendship is taking and still they remain unsatisfied.
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I thought of all these things in that car ride tonight, which takes less than 15 minutes to go from Bastille to Buttes Chaumont. As much as it sucks (and I wouldn't be writing this cathartic post at 2AM when I'm dead tired and going cross-eyed if it didn't suck), when I think about it, I know I'm right. I shouldn't stay somewhere that causes me so much discomfort and self-doubt. "It's so hard just to be a young, independant, single woman that it's not ever worth it to let yourself stay in situations that compromise your ability to do that. And then making the shift from those oppressive and belittling work places to being intellectual and creative is not easy, if you can manage to do it at all."***
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I'm going to stop by the bar Wednesday to talk to Slim about my schedule with school and stuff. That's the way we left it off when I got out of the car and, head still raised, walked up to my house.
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* "C'est toi qui penses ça."
** As healthy as this may sound it comes from a place of guilt in forcing emotional upheavals onto obliging company.
*** Paraphrased from a conversation with Mimi****
**** (I am lucky to know such smart people)

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Vanves

Marché aux Puces, 08h25
30 January 2010
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. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I don't know that I've ever really met anyone surrounded filled with as much (positive) energy as Maritza. Everytime I mention something that would be cool to check out or do one day she immediately suggests a date for actually doing it (there's a list of things on our fridge just now of dinner items to make, places to go eat and places to grab a drink/go dancing. Ambitious ? Why, yes, we like to think so, too). So it's Maritza to thank for helping me to get me out of bed at twenty after six this morning to go to the Marché de Vanves (even though my tired ass had barely been under the covers two hours). Thank ... blame ... whatev's.

I can definitively say, though, that we were even later, arriving at the flea market at 8:15, under the first drops of sunlight, forced to swallow gulp after gulp of bitter cold air while trying to navigate the long street of antiques vendors. (Perhaps more than even, in fact.)

The Marché de Vanves is one of my au pair family's favorite places to go to buy antiques (it in all likelihood would be mine as well had a wallet to support). It's one of the better quirky spots on Paris, je t'aime short list (even more so when it's not so effing cold).

We managed to waddle our frozen feet through the mess of mirrors and fans and photos and candle holders from the late 1800's and games and figurines and accordions and matchboxes from the early to mid-1900's and furniture spanning both decades (with some really nifty mod-style head scratchers from the 1960's) in about two hours, with only one (albeit 20 min) break for coffee and the prevention of frostbite. After a petit chocolat chaud (made with real chocolate no less !) Maritza and I went our separate ways in search of text books and that really good Indian curry sold in some obscure shop in the 6ème, respectively ).*

After a successful completion of mission food-aholic [phase P19], I walked over the Seine to the Marais and continued along until I (for the umpteenth time) started to be concerned about ever feeling my extremities again.

When I came back to the apartment I took a nap for about an hour, then spent the subsequent hour having a (mini) exestential crisis and lapsing into a bit of depressed state linked partially to the passage of time, predominantly to my not wanting to go to the bar to work last night, and also significantly to the settled weight of comprehension of physical distance and my inability to reach out to my network of friends in my state of loneliness and anxiety over the uncertainty of life in coming months.

(And to think -- all this without leaving my bed ! That's the thing about anxiety, it's wonderfully convenient, available anytime, anyplace.)

In short, I miss you.

The big, steaming bowl of red lentil soup I ate in front of a QuickPlay viewing of Annie Hall helped.** Which was important because work really kicked my ass. While the situation seemed to have improved with my collegue and the language and whole French bartending-schtick, the barmaid decided the other night that I was unneccessary and has now devised a list of ways for making me seem useless and expendable -- pushing past me take orders, clear tables and even diving in front of me on several occassions to grab the one rag used for drying glasses so that I'm left standing there with nothing to do but look cute (which I do very well, but still ...). In response, I've taken to saying "suck it" all bright-eyed and smiling like it means "ok" in English slang (there are more pro-active ways for dealing with this situation, I imagine, but I prefer to remain ignorant as to what they are).

I guess I've also not been feeling the Franco-love in that I haven't seen one of my Parisian contacts in the last week and half. Logically, I know people are busy at the start of a new year, but emotionally ? Come the fuck on people ! Not one of you has time to grab a drink or even a little 3/4 oz espresso ?! Ce qu'on aurait fait pour reçevoir la bienvenue. I like time to myself but there comes a point ... well, let's say that I'm luckier than I realized to have a roommate I get along so well with -- who doesn't mind me crashing her Wednesday sortie with her friends. (Which was friggin' awesome btws-- people that know how to do it up until 4AM on a Wednesday, are a rare and precious breed.) It's that dose of socialiblity that saved me the last time I arrived here. God bless her for it.
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I start at Beaux-Arts Monday. I'm interested/excited/more than moderately terrified to see how things will change in my well-established, week-old, Parisian life.

* Because I know for a moment there you thought I was the one buying text books.***
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** How do we feel about posting recipes ? Interested ?
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*** It's really cute because she even sent me a little text that was like, "Happy curry shopping !"****
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**** Can anyone even read this f-ing tiny text down here ? should I not even
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***** What's with all the meta-metatext and need for reassurance ?******
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****** This question was actually rhetorical.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Parc des Buttes-Chaumont

un espace vert, 17h15
26 January 2010

". . . . . . . . . Désireux de donner aux Parisiens de vastes espaces verts, Napoléon III décide d'adjoindre aux bois de Boulogne (ouest) et de Vincennes (est), les parcs Montsouris (sud) et des Buttes-Chaumont (nord). Les travaux commencent en novembre 1863 sous la direction de l'ingénieur Alphand et du jardiner Barillet-Deschamps, sur une zone de 27 hectares dévastée par les carrières d'extraction de gypse, tandis que l'architecte Davioud édifie maisons de gardiens et chalets-restaurants. L'inauguration du parc, le 1er avril 1867, coincide avec celle de l'Exposition universelle. Plus que toute autre réalisation monumentale du Second Empire, les Buttes-Chaumont incarnent l'âme baroque de cette époque... . . . . . . . . . . . . "

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I was considering translating this passage for a hot-second but then these things are always painfully dull. In short, Napoleon decided that Paris should be surrounded by parks on all sides and created Buttes-Chaumont for the northern part of the city. It's rather some high quality craftsmanship too. While walking through the park the first time, I was racking my brain trying to remember if I've ever been anywhere more beautiful than this 27 hectares of sheer heaven. (It would appear that, no, I have not). My plans for blogging this week included writing something about the quartier, but when I set out to take photos of the neighborhood I ended spending the entire afternoon (the equivalent of 2AA battery life-spans) in the Parc alone.
What's so amazing about this place to me is that I'd never been here before, nor heard anything of it in my au-pair year. In tourist plagued sections of the city there are no postcards of the park or commemorative books about its construction (as there are for others like the Jardin de Luxembourg). A Google image search doesn't even return particularly sexy photos of this "incarnation of the baroque spirit."The fact that it lacks the notarity of Paris' larger parcs et bois adds to its seductive charm. I very quickly found myself emotionally and almost spiritually attached to this space -- it has a very eerie and bewitching timeless beauty to it. At the right time of day, you can touch an instant of eternity and know the essence of its weightlessness and its burden. It's beauty is so moving that you feel the presence of a past you've never seen and a future you'll never meet. Like looking at the world before the genesis and after the apocalypse and seeing where beginning and end disappear into each other, occupying the same space in the great cycle of the universe.

I know all the quasi-spiritual stuff is must seem rather intense par rapport to the fact that it's just a park -- but I felt these things so strongly there. I wish I was better equipped for explaining why. The feeling of euphoria could have been a side effect of hypothermia (with it reaching a balmy 4°C today, which, even when compared to recent negative temps the gray city's been feeling, is not the best time for spending hours in the outdoors taking photos) or even having something to do with the initative of self-reflection I've taken since the start of my new journey.

Or maybe I'm just not meant to explain it because it's rather something you need to experience for yourself.

Part of my love affair with this space excludes me from imagining it looking any more beautiful than it does already (leafless under a cold, gray sky). My (part-time) park-walk companion, however, assured me that in the spring, when the park turns green and people come out to play music and picnic on the grass, it is truely in its glory. Though he didn't necessarily employ those exact words. Actually, it's more accurate to say that he was just some asshole trying to pick me up rather than making it seem I had an invited tour guide. It kinda added to the whole experience, though, being able to maintain a state of bliss through my surroundings even in light of the supremely irritating (and suprizingly verbose) presence.

Though I did shake him when my camera batteries died, keeping him from accompanying me to the store where "we could buy enough batteries so that after the park I can take you to a museum and maybe we can find a place to buy you a bike if you like bikes and I know good places for riding I'd be more than happy to show you [etc., etc...]"

[ further tangent -- It's always my favorite part about meeting French people when after a sentance or two they say, "Et vous venez d'où ? J'entends un petit accent. " Yeh, thanks for pointing it out asshole -- nice of you to use your petit euphamism for my major grammatical error... ]

[ Further tangential writing (because whythehellnot? I've got a ton of space to fill in between my ninteen thousand photos and I'm already tired of my quasi-spiritual pontifications on the breathless wonder that is this park) -- My petit accent (and its reason for being) has been getting me into a bit of trouble with bar patrons at work, mainly because it's a French bar in France and it would seem that the bartender a) has the intelligence of a pickled cucumber or b) just doesn't speak French (however most people are inclined to assume that if a is true if b is true and are pretty much ready to jump on option b at my first "pardon?"). Granted, I ask a lot of people to repeat themselves, but I only ask each person to it once. Why, then, do they immediately get frustrated at having to switch into English ? Search me -- I never asked em to speak anything but French in the first place ....
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I am regretting my change over from talking about inner peace and a connectedness* with time and nature to petty complaints about work as much as I regret eating half of a 7 oz. chocolate bar for lunch
yesterday (or as much as I regret eating the other half just now). With all these photos of an open, public space dedicated to the appreciation of nature and beauty, couldn't one think of something more appropriate to write about ? Firstly, no. And secondly, I pretty much assumed that no one would actually read this far anyway (why should you when it's so much easier (and prettier !) to just skim through all the lovely photos ?). In fact, I've rather assumed the same thinking insofar as to say that if I invest enough time into taking purdy pictures I'm pretty much burned out by the time it comes to writing about them. Any with these pics, really, anything I could say about them would just detract from what they already stand to present on their own.
So, then, to continue before straying too, too far from the topic -- A note on French bar tastes. There seems to exist in this country an underdeveloped appreciation for cocktail culture -- a latency period, if you will, in which the Jager-bomb is something exotic and most "mixed drinks" are composed Stella Artois and some less than appetizing sirop-du-jour (i.e. grenadine, Sprite and Stella or lemon syrup and Stella). As you may be able to imagine, I am against this on a number of levels: First and foremost being that it would WAY more practical to just get good tasting beer in this country. (They have, on the other hand, done rather well with pervation of quality scotch.)

There was a rather charmingly displaced group of Anglophones at the bar Sunday night who seemed almost overwhelmed with relief when they found out I was one of "their kind." Cute, too -- three students from the American Business school. One guy from Hawaii (I've never been but I can't -- for the life of me -- figure out why you people ever want to leave that island), one from Cincinnati (I think -- he wasn't a big talker), and one from New Zealand (winner of the 2009 Prince Harry look-a-like contest). I asked him if his country was really the way they make it seem in Flight of the Conchords (this part "skillful" chit-chat, part I actually really want to know the answer to this question). He admitted to only having watched one episode (boo).
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My fellow bartender and trainer's name is Marianne and I'd also be inclined to call her charming, except that she's really anything but. She second guesses everything that I do and assumes that because I'm not familliar with how things work at this specific French bar, that I must not know the first thing about bartending (or even walking upright). She's loud and insincere and has made a real pastime of finding things to get out of shape over. Maritza (my poor roommate) has gotten two earfulls of how much this chick gets under my skin (one dose for each shift I spent with her). But really, what would a restaurant/bar experience be without one psychotic collegue ? Ask me any place I've ever worked and I will give you the name of that girl in each establishment.


I am lucky though, to be bringing in a little cash, especially considering how quickly I'm still burning through it. (The strangest things are ridiculously expensive in France -- hairspray goes for 7€50 and up, sunscreen starts at 15€, drying laundry costs 1€ for every 10 mins. That anyone could be lucky enough to call New York expensive ....) It's good, too, to have the time to sleep in after each shift and spend the day actively doing just about nothing until 8 or 9PM. Sunday afternoon, Maritza and I went walking through the Marais, my (I guess former) favorite quartier. The Marais is perfect for Sunday afternoons because it's the Jewish district of the city, so while everything is closed and asleep the Marais is buzzing with energy and life. My reasons for loving it fall simply into three categories. 1) The architecture (it is one of the most beautiful and quirky and well composed sections of Paris/France/Europe), 2) the Marais has hands-down some of the best places to shop in the city (between the range of boutiques and the vintages shops which are *le gasp* actually affordable), and 3) (perhaps most importantly) la rue des Rosiers has absolutely the best falafel I have ever had (or perhaps will ever have) in my life.**
*It is a word.***
** The only draw back is that I can no longer take supreme joy in all falafel, now knowing what the true food of the God's tastes like.
***In Samese if nothing else.